I’m going to be real honest with you for a second. I’m sick of blogging. Each day I find it harder and harder to sit down and write a post. Usually because I’m too busy/too tired/whatever. But mostly because, frankly, I’m just tired of it. I’m too lazy to style my food, so my pictures suck. There’s nothing I can say in my post that hasn’t already been said a billion times. I’ve been blogging for 5 years, people. It’s been said.

Blogging is a different animal nowadays. When I first started this blog back in 2008, it was pretty simple. We cooked, we photographed, we blogged. It seems like now there are like, 10 added steps! We cook it (not necessarily because it sounded like great recipe, but because we think it might be a big hit on pinterest), we style it, we photograph it, we blog it, we submit it to various food photography sites, we pin it, we post it to our facebook, twitter, and instagram, and then we do the whole thing over again the very next day, because if we let off the gas pedal for even a little, we might lose our followers and our advertising revenue will go down, all the while, finding time to go to countless seminars and conferences learning how to better our blogs, become masters at SEO, and learn how to get the maximum exposure on pinterest. Well, I’m in trouble….because I hardly do any of that! Imagine the cloud of worry constantly hanging over my head because I’ve fallen off the blogging horse and can’t seem to get back up. What will happen to my blogher ads? What if I lose readers? My pay will go down considerably! ‘My pay’?? Seriously?! Gross, Amy.

Then I log onto twitter/pinterest/feedly and see so many fellow bloggers selling out and proudly doing some random company’s advertising for them. Is that what we’ve become, bloggers? An advertisement for someone else‘s stuff? If every post you create revolves around a product that someone paid you to talk about, I think you’re missing the point. I’m tired of good bloggers trying to sell me on cell phones/potatoes/coffee makers/yogurt/WHATEVER.  But even that isn’t the real reason I’m sick of blogging.

There is a particular post that has been sitting in my drafts folder for almost a year now. It’s a cursed post. Seriously. Every time I sit down to finish the dang thing, something ALWAYS happens to prohibit me from typing a word. I’m not kidding- the post draft contains one picture…but not one word. This morning, I decided to sit down and just knock it out in one setting. Just plow on through and get it finished! And then this happened:

photo 1

And this:

photo 2

 [heart = melted]

Seriously, HOW can I, in good conscience, sit there and blog while my sweet baby looks like this?! I can’t. That’s why I barely get any blogging done anymore. Because I refuse to do it while Cassidy is awake, since that’s our time. When she’s napping, I try to use the time for a shower or cleaning or napping myself. By the time bedtime rolls around, honestly, I just don’t feel like it. That’s my time with Joel, and the last thing I want to do is sit in front of a laptop.

I know. There are LOTS of blogging moms who find time to do it all. Pretty much all of my closest blogging friends have kids- little kids!- and they find plenty of time to devote to their blogs while giving ample attention to their children. I guess the difference between them and me is they’re not burned out. I need to find purpose in my blogging again. And something tells me it has nothing to do with stats, ads, or pinterest. I know that every time I wait a week in between posts, I lose readers. I know that. But it also means I’m doing something far more meaningful with my time- whether it’s swinging in the back yard or pretend cooking with Cassidy, lounging in bed watching Psych re-runs with Joel, or having coffee with my mom and sister. When I finally do find my blogging purpose again (and I will), it’ll be because it was on my schedule and not my readers’ or pinterest’s or my sidebar ads’. So there.

Phew. It feels good to get that out! Any other bloggers out there feel my pain? Share it with me! I’d love to know how you refreshed yourself and your blogging! Hopefully I’m not alone, here. :)

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  1. I SO know this feeling! I just had my fifth baby…and YES, they more important. And so are you. If it’s not a passion anymore, walk away. Find something that you are passionate about (sounds like you already have)! Life is too short to spend agonizing over something that you “should” be doing.

    Maybe I will go back to blogging someday. Maybe I won’t. Either way, I’m good with that!

    Becky
    retired blogger:-)

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    amy Reply:

    5 babies trumps food blog anyday!! Best of luck with your decision (although we miss you!)!

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    Comment by Becky — July 12, 2013 @ 6:06 AM

  2. I love your recipes but no, I don’t read it everyday. If I don’t have the time to check in every day, surely I can’t expect you to have the time to post every day. I would much rather read a blog that someone is doing because they enjoy it then to read one that is so fancy and professional that really aims to make money. I’ve stopped reading so many that I used to enjoy because it had become a business (Pioneer Woman for one).

    So take a break if you need to, enjoy that baby (she is too adorable) and then when you are energized and ready to share something delicious, I for one will be waiting to try it out. And I won’t even judge the photos.

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    Comment by Carrie — July 12, 2013 @ 7:03 AM

  3. Oh Amy I’m so sorry to hear that :( You’re one of the blogger who inspired me to start blogging! Recently another blogger who I liked a lot ended her blogging too, for different reasons than you. Dark days for internet :( I too find it hard to blog between school and work and life, and it’s true you have to be super devoted to make a living from it (I really don’t). Sometimes I would just like to bake, make pretty pics and put a link to the recipe, that’s it ;) Baking, styling, photographing and eating are the best parts :D I wish you the best with the perfect Cassidy and Joel and take time for you to have fun and relax. xxxxx

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    amy Reply:

    You’re so sweet, Marjorie! I feel honored to have inspired you- your blog is awesome!

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    Comment by Marjorie (Sugar for the Brain) — July 12, 2013 @ 7:32 AM

  4. I agree! From a completely non-blogger’s point of view (just someone who’s discovered that I trust recipes from bloggers more than from general sites, regardless of reviews…), it gets tiresome to see “sponsored by” posts. A few bloggers can pull them off once in a while because they make recipes and posts that fit right in, and you genuinely don’t know it’s a sponsored recipe until you see it at the end, but mostly it’s just tedious. I use feedly, so I see posts whenever they show up! I don’t have kids yet, but when we do, they will definitely come first. As they should.

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    Comment by Emily — July 12, 2013 @ 7:42 AM

  5. I understand what you are going through. I have had a couple of blogs since 2009 and now I am just down to one that has three readers and even then they really don’t comment. When I quit trying to please everyone else I became more of what I wanted to be. I may blog once a week or I may go a few weeks. I am married with a full time job and a 12 yr old daughter who likes to keep me on my feet.
    I don’t have time to sit in front of a computer everyday and do something. Just keep doing what you want to do because in the end that is what will happen. I have enjoyed your blog, but I don’t plan on leaving just because you decided not to post something every week. You have tons of past recipes that I would like to try in my spare time.

    May you always be blessed..

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    Comment by Brittany — July 12, 2013 @ 7:55 AM

  6. Amy, it is so refreshing to read this post. As a fellow blogger, I struggle with those feelings a lot lately…and I don’t even have kids! It’s so hard to keep up and dare I say, compete. A post is so much more than a post now and even getting the picture up takes so much more time because I have to watermark it and add file info so it helps it not get stolen…which is another part that bums me out as a blogger. I’m tired of feeling not good enough compared to other bloggers (which I need to stop comparing anyway) and I get frustrated that some of the top food bloggers will write an entire post on something not even food related because they were paid to do it. Then there’s the sponsored trips and the conferences and the do this and do that or you’re not going to be good. Can’t we just get back to the food? I miss the days where we all just talked about food and how much we loved it and wanting to share our experiences in the kitchen. So, I wanted you to know you’re not alone in your feelings! I sure have enjoyed your blog over the years and it’s ok by me if you don’t post every day and include your favorite stroller that someone paid you to say is your favorite. I like you just the way you are. Being real is what blogging should be about. ;)

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    amy Reply:

    Thank you, Leah. :)

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    Comment by Leah | So, How's It Taste? — July 12, 2013 @ 8:15 AM

  7. *claps for Amy*

    WE all got into blogging because it was fun. I don’t fault you one bit for stepping back if it hasn’t become fun. Your recipes will always be some of my favorites, but bottom line is that blogging isn’t your full time job. That adorable little girl is proof of that!

    I haven’t blogged in like 9 months. And now with my own little one on the way, I don’t see myself really maintaining it. I’m hanging onto it long enough to make some kind of archive of all the recipes, and then it will probably shut down. Maybe I’ll start it up again, maybe not. But I agree, it’s not *just* about blogging anymore – the sponsorships and the social media – it’s exhausting!

    Bottom line, do what’s best for you. If that’s one post a month or no posts at all, your readers will understand and support you!

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    Comment by Lindsay @ Peace, Love and French Fries — July 12, 2013 @ 8:16 AM

  8. I have really enjoyed your blog, but I understand the challenges. I am a new mom to a 5 month old and follow blogs mainly through feedly because I don’t have the time to look them up individually. I don’t know how people find time to get much done because I know it doesn’t happen in my house. Taking care of a baby, taking care of the house, and trying to figure out dinner (oh my poor husband – I haven’t cooked a dinner more than once week…thank goodness for what I had in the freezer!) is more than a full-time job in itself. I don’t blame you for wanting to spend the time with your daughter and your husband. You want to feel like you’ve had the chance to enjoy their childhood because you don’t get that time back so go and enjoy your family! Your readers will be here if/when you decide to post.

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    amy Reply:

    A big congratulations on your little one!!! They are such a joy!

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    Comment by Heather — July 12, 2013 @ 8:37 AM

  9. I totally agree with you… I think all these sponsored posts, obsession with SEO (still don’t really know what it is), and making things purely for pinterest has made me lose interest in a lot of blogs.
    Thank you for your honesty!

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    amy Reply:

    What the heck IS seo anyway?! How can I maximize it if I don’t know what it is! Haha!

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    Comment by Cate — July 12, 2013 @ 9:29 AM

  10. I definitely know the feeling of being a discouraged blogger! I am new to the blogging scene, 6 months, and find that trying to keep up with super fancy blogs with excellent pictures and advertisements is discouraging. Thanks for pointing out that not everybody is out to make money and have picture perfect blogs. I just love cooking and sharing good food :) Good luck getting your blogging vision back!!

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    Comment by Rachel — July 12, 2013 @ 9:30 AM

  11. oh I agree with you. Sometimes it’s all just too much work, too much process, to much ass kicking, too much back patting, and overall stress.

    Hope you find your mojo again and enjoy blogging. good luck!!

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    Comment by nicole @ I am a Honey Bee — July 12, 2013 @ 9:36 AM

  12. I feel you. I think blogging used to feel like a community for me, and now I get that sense of community from other places. Plus the sense of competition and readers and conferences and all of that seemed to wreck that feeling of reading people’s blogs because I was interested in them. Do what you gotta do!

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    amy Reply:

    I miss the old school WC board! There was so much support and encouragement there! Good times…

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    ashlee Reply:

    I agree with you ladies :)
    I have REALLY slowed down my blogging, and now when I do, it’s because I made something really awesome and I want to share it.
    As far as getting blog mojo back, joining a CSA helped me, it gave me new ingredients that I didn’t normally cook with, and forced me to try new things, so I felt inspired to blog about the new finds plus the awesomeness of a CSA.
    But, at the end of the day, my heart isn’t into blogging as it is now. I don’t do ads, sponsored posts, giveaways, etc. I refuse to sell out. I miss foodbuzz and the 24×24 things or a fun new product to challenge myself to create a recipe with, but it’s just different now!

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    Comment by Kira — July 12, 2013 @ 9:38 AM

  13. While I agree with most of this I do not agree with the upset in your fellow bloggers that take on paid gigs. Many bloggers, Tweeters and Pinners spent a lot of time and energy building their presence and if the reward is a little compensation from a brand I already love and use… I’ll take it. Not everyone is like that though and yes there are many that will blog for a buck about anything, but not everyone that gets paid to blog does it because of the money :)

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    amy Reply:

    I agree with you for the most part, but when bloggers are pinning pictures of cell phones just for the sole purpose of promoting their review of the product- that’s where I have an issue. Also, when 3 out of 4 posts are centered around sponsored products, are we really doing it for ourselves anymore? Or just the money?

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    Comment by Kim Randall — July 12, 2013 @ 9:44 AM

  14. I feel your pain. My baby hasn’t even arrived yet but all through pregnancy I’ve struggled to keep posting. I envy you and the other mommy bloggers that keep it going after you have the baby. You’re like super women!!

    But it’s true. Blogging should be about the simplicity that you talk about. It’s about sharing great food ideas with some friends and family. It’s about being fun. It’s cool and rewarding when random people stumble across my blog and like it enough to keep coming back. I don’t make much in revenue and I certainly don’t NEED it. Sure the extra pocket money is nice but at the end of the day, my family (and sanity) will come first. (Sorry readers!) Then again, there are so many great food blogs out there that I’m sure my readers would move on…the world would continue with or without me as part of the blogosphere and that’s a-okay with me.

    All the best and hope you find and do what’s ultimately best for you and your family!

    Christine

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    Comment by Christine @ Christine's Kitchen Chronicles — July 12, 2013 @ 9:44 AM

  15. I just had to take time to comment! I’ve been blogging for nearly eight years and I recently announced I may give it up.

    After awhile it was becoming too much a chore and I had already decided to not keep any advertisements except my Amazon Widget.

    But I had so many readers ask me to stay around, even if I cut back blogging a great deal so that is what I’ve done. I only have two regular features that are “cut in stone” each week and I sometimes have a few other posts… some weeks I don’t.

    I understand that goes against everything one is told about building up readership but that is no longer my priority. I now blog as I once did, just for enjoyment. It just came to me one day that blogging was getting in the way of living real life, especially as I have a chronic illness and energy is limited.

    I also still write for a Christian mom’s site but it is only once a month and the date is flexible. I completely understand… and will still read… even if you blog much less often!

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    amy Reply:

    Thank you for taking the time to comment! Much appreciated!

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    Comment by Brenda Nuland — July 12, 2013 @ 9:46 AM

  16. I’m not a blogger, just a follower of your great recipes. I read your blogs and try your recipes when time allows in my crazy schedule. I hope that you are able to find your passion again … or just figure out how blogging (even at its simplest form) can fit into your new busy life! I will be happy to check in, even if just to read the archived blogs. Best of luck!

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    Comment by Melissa — July 12, 2013 @ 9:49 AM

  17. Bravo, Amy. Very well written, and I know that many of us feel the same way. When something you love becomes more of a hassle, it makes us less passionate about it. You should do what is best for you and your family, regardless of what the popular opinion is or what internet strangers say. :)

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    Comment by Eva @ Eva Bakes — July 12, 2013 @ 9:54 AM

  18. Nice post…and just so you know, sometimes it’s difficult to find the time to follow all the blogs I want to…”but what if they make something that I’ll love? I can’t miss it!! I have to find the time to read the blogs!!!!”

    Take as much time as you want between blog posts :) We could all use a break from technology!!!!!

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    Comment by Jackie — July 12, 2013 @ 9:57 AM

  19. Omg, I could’ve written this. Blogging has changed so much since we started. It’s all about who kisses the most butt or who can pimp themselves out to companies the best. Most of my blogging life was spent, as you said, cooking things that I knew my readers would love/would do good on Pinterest but I’m finally at the point where I don’t care. I cook what I want. Sometimes I photograph it, sometimes not. I’m spending my fun money on nailpolish instead of props and it feels awesome! Blogging should be fun and when it’s not, it’s time to step away.

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    amy Reply:

    Ha! Enjoy that nail polish! I’ve never spent my blog money on props! It usually goes toward our date night or vacation fund! ;)

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    Comment by amanda @ fake ginger — July 12, 2013 @ 10:07 AM

  20. Great post, Amy! I know many people will share your same thoughts and feelings on this. I know I certainly do. Enjoy your family! Come back when you’re ready. :)

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    Comment by Melissa — July 12, 2013 @ 10:23 AM

  21. I love your blog and every recipe I make I have enjoyed. Especially, broccoli cheddar soup it will forever be in my file. I don’t have children, but to me it sounds like you have gone onto another chapter in your book. I think your blog should include food and possibly parenthood. Sounds like you connecting with moms would fit in more with your lifestyle and activities. Remember why you started your blog in the first place. For some people it may be just about money. It sounds like your was started for another reason. I hope you continue with sharing your cooking, but sounds like your blog still needs to be fun for you and your daily life now. Start sharing about motherhood and you will have a set if new followers. Good luck and stick with it! Even if its a blog once every two weeks. :) good luck!

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    Comment by Shannon — July 12, 2013 @ 10:25 AM

  22. You definitely aren’t alone. When my two kids were younger and still in the toddler phase, having time (or the energy) to blog was a miracle. It has gotten easier for me as they’ve gotten older. I find that if I am stressed out and too busy with life my desire to read blogs or to update on my own goes way down.

    Also I also think it can be hard not to compare ourselves with other bloggers who we view as more successful and more talented than ourselves. I look at blogs and when I read the ‘info’ section a ton of these people were already professional photographers with props and expensive cameras at the start.

    If I dwell on it I can feel bad about my blog, but in the end what I tell myself is this- I only have so much time and money to devote to my blog. I do not have the time to put towards making a wanna-be photo studio to photograph my food. I don’t have the money for the props or the expensive camera. As a single mom I don’t have the time to sit on facebook, twitter, pinterest, other food blogs trying to network and shmooze. I turn down so, so many offers from companies wanting me to talk about their random junk.

    I just do what I can with what I have. I’m not the most professional, I’m not very popular, I get in there, I make good food, I take a few snaps and I get out. I do my best to visit blogs but the truth is that 95% of the time, I pin a recipe and don’t comment. It is about all I have time for. :/

    We all do what we can with what we have. You aren’t alone. If it doesn’t make you happy to blog, take a break indefinitely until the thought of coming back is exciting to you. :) Take care!

    Also – Sorry if this comment is a giant mess. Haven’t had my coffee yet :)

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    amy Reply:

    I’m honored to come before coffee! ;)

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    Comment by Ali — July 12, 2013 @ 10:32 AM

  23. It sounds like everyone else had the same thought I did: THANK YOU for letting us see this side! Sometimes it gets so very, incredibly overwhelming to see these perfect blogger moms with their perfectly styled food photos and their original recipes, day in and day out, when I’m sitting here wondering if we have any more ramen in the house because heaven knows I am NOT in the mood to cook! So thank you for letting us see that you guys have a hard time with it too sometimes.

    But more importantly – thank you for making your family your first priority!! Sadly, that now seems to be a noteworthy thing, but it’s so very very important! So thank you for letting us know that you’ll be putting your family first and enjoying your days with your (adorable!) little girl :)

    I look forward to seeing you back “on the blogging horse” as you say — whenever you feel excited about it again

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    Comment by Michelle Stoll — July 12, 2013 @ 11:10 AM

  24. I agree 100% with what you said, Amy, and I’m glad someone finally said it. I have always loved blogging just for what it is – making food that excites me, taking good photos of it (because I adore the art of it), and sharing recipes in hopes that someone else with similar tastebuds might enjoy them. I hate hate hate seeing blogger after blogger sell out and become a sell out for each and every company to show the slightest interest in them. I think some people are easily flattered by these sponsorships but I don’t quite get that, since it’s in the company’s best interests – essentially free (or nearly free) advertising. I don’t like words plastered all over photos so they will be pinned more, and I don’t like seeing posts that were clearly written with Pinterest in mind. I hate the idea of the huge conferences where it’s all networking, get more hits, blah blah blah, so I don’t go to them. Definitely not my cup of tea. I almost never have time to submit my photos to the various food photo sites anymore, so I don’t bother, and I don’t care.

    The great thing about blogging, though, is that there is no “wrong” way to do it (though some might have you believe otherwise.) It’s *your* blog. Write what you want, when you want. If you don’t want to, then don’t. Don’t feel bad or stressed about it because the point is that you enjoy it, or you did.

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    amy Reply:

    I’m glad you took the time to comment on this, especially since you were definitely one of the ones I had in mind when I wrote this. I want people to see that it’s definitely possible to have a hugely successful blog (like yours) without having to sell out. You don’t have to sell out to become more popular- just post what you’re passionate about!
    And those watermarks drive me nuts too…

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    Comment by Annie — July 12, 2013 @ 11:32 AM

  25. I’ve been blogging for six years and have these thoughts off and on over the last six years. I occasionally take time off but then I find myself missing it so much. I love creating new recipes and sharing them with my readers (aka my grandmother, mom, and mother-in-law) ;)

    When I am excited about it, it is tons of fun. I have zero ads on my site so this is purely a hobby and not a money making venture. When it is more stressful than fun I take some time off.

    I am so glad to see I am not the only one feeling this way.

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    Comment by Jamie G — July 12, 2013 @ 11:50 AM

  26. Poor sweet girl! I hate that you are in so much agony. Maybe you should find another outlet that brings you joy. This is definitely bringing you more harm than good it sounds like.

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    Comment by Kelly — July 12, 2013 @ 11:53 AM

  27. I could not agree more! I was just thinking the other day that life was so much easier before I learned that you could make money off your blog! Now it has just added stress to something that was once enjoyable! I miss the carefree days, where you didn’t have to worry about magazine quality pictures or getting hits on Pinterest. What’s worse is when you learn that steady posting builds a bigger audience–then you force yourself to have posts done in a certain time frame and sometimes that just doesn’t happen. I only like posting recipes I am super crazy about so if I don’t find one by the time Monday comes around, what am I to do!? Ahhh! I can go on and on. I’m glad you let it all out!

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    Comment by Mimi — July 12, 2013 @ 12:05 PM

  28. I’m with you. Although I don’t mind the odd sponsored post, as long as it aligns with the general idea/feel of the blog, I’m okay with it. When it involves things like cellphones – not so much.

    I have stopped following bloggers who ONLY do sponsored posts, because they lose their credibility with me.

    I blog when I want, and as often as I want. I take breaks when I want.

    I have ads on my blog. Last month I made 95 cents. Yay!

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    amy Reply:

    You work that 95 cents, girl!!

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    Comment by USA Kiwi (Kylee) — July 12, 2013 @ 12:34 PM

  29. Take the time to enjoy your little girl, post when you find the time or desire. I agree that there is way too much to do for blogging- I just need a good simple recipe and a picture to have an idea of how it should look (not that it necessarily will with me lol). You are so much fun to read and I enjoy all of your posts. Stay true to your values and don’t feel bad about not being a sell-out you need to feel good about yourself at the end of the day. I love your stories about Cassidy- she is adorable so hang in there and take some time to find the enjoyment in blogging again.

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    amy Reply:

    Thank you so much!

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    Comment by Jill — July 12, 2013 @ 12:42 PM

  30. My blog is nowhere near as big as yours, but I do understand what you’re saying. It is exhausting work, and you’re absolutely right for wanting to take the time you do have to spend with family and friends. Having a blog is a lot of pressure, and I think that sometimes bloggers don’t even realize the amount of pressure we put on ourselves, which isn’t fair. Writing should be *fun* and not a chore. I hope you enjoy your time off, however long it might be!

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    Comment by Olivia @ Liv Lives Life — July 12, 2013 @ 1:00 PM

  31. This post is exactly why I would NEVER try to turn a hobby into something that makes me money. I know some people can do that and it works for them, but it would eventually take all the joy out of it for me. I love photography, blogging, and cooking, but I’d never want to even attempt to make money on any of the 3. I have my day job (that I love!) for that, and the other 3 are just for my own time, and for me to devote just as much time to it as works for me in that moment. I’ve been blogging for over 5 years now and never once have attempted to increase readers, sell ads, or anything and I’m much more satisfied with continuing to blog because of it. It’s always only been for me – of course I love comments and I love hearing that people enjoying reading my blog, but that’s it. No additional pressure, and with 2 small children as well as a full-time job, I can’t handle any more of that!

    I hope you can find the right balance that works for you!

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    Comment by Erin — July 12, 2013 @ 1:10 PM

  32. Oh gosh Amy, I want to hug you right now. You hit the nail on the head for how I absolutely feel. I was reading your post and I totally kept saying to myself, I could have written this same post, too. I’m struggling right now with two kiddos and to maintain my blog is not my top priority any more. Eric and I were just discussing this morning that the kids are my top priority, and I shouldn’t lose any sleep over my blog. It’s great, it’s fun but I need to balance my time for myself as well. I agree that today’s popular bloggers have lost the focus on what food blogging was all about. I’m all about making meals for my family but the ten thousand steps needed to blog it, pin it, instagram it, twitter it, facebook it…has been tiresome. I want more pictures on my camera of my kids, not my food. Those are the memories that I want to capture. Thank you for writing this well-written post. BIG hugs to you, Joel and Cassidy. XXOO

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    amy Reply:

    Girl, I can only imagine what it must be like with TWO little ones! You do such a great job, though! And you’re such a good mommy- I wouldn’t worry one bit about slowing down a little on your posting. I think our readers prefer quality over quantity anyway!

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    Comment by Krystal R {Mrs. Regueiro's Plate} — July 12, 2013 @ 1:45 PM

  33. Your life and family come first. Blogging shouldn’t take away from your life. If is does, maybe it’s not the right thing, right now. I have never started a blog because I felt I would get all consumed in it and my family would suffer. I have 5 grown sons, 5 sweet DIL, and 13 precious grandkids to spoil. That doesn’t leave a lot of time to spend making blog posts. I so hope you feel good about choosing your family first and have no guilt walking away from blogging or cutting back on it. Life’s too short to feel miserable when we can choose a different path. I’ll enjoy your posts whenever you make them. If you never post again, I’ll think of how wonderful you are doing living life the way you want! Best of everything to you! As the song says, “Don’t worry, be happy”.

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    Comment by Casey — July 12, 2013 @ 2:04 PM

  34. I feel your pain! I’m tired of reading “food” blogs that talk about vacations and products that have nothing to do with food. It just feels like people are selling out for money and/or products. I don’t have any children but I do have a life. I make sure several nights a week I don’t look at my blog. It really helps. I used to link up to link parties but I don’t anymore and I feel good about it because that used to take me 30 minutes…now I spend that extra 30 minutes with my husband.

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    Comment by Hezzi-D — July 12, 2013 @ 2:19 PM

  35. I so agree with you. Family first, then if you make something that taste great share it with us ever so often and who cares if the pictures do not loook like the ones in magazines. Plus, I hate all those ad sponsors. Just remember that we are all still out here if you want to share.

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    Comment by Dana — July 12, 2013 @ 3:13 PM

  36. I hear you, Amy! Not having enough time to blog is the main reason mine gets really quiet in the springtime – too many thing to do with work, gigs, and trying to squeeze some family time in. But the time away means that I get extra excited to cook and photograph and experiment during the slow summer months. Take a break if you need to! We will still be there if/when you decide to come back.

    About sponsored posts… I am so on the fence about that. I’ve been dipping my toe into that area, and am still wondering how I feel about it.

    And, I miss posting on WC. Is that board still active?

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    amy Reply:

    I think everybody left the nest to form a new wc group elsewhere. I have no idea where, unfortunately! I miss it too!

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    Comment by Suzanne — July 12, 2013 @ 4:11 PM

  37. Thank you for such an honest post. I often feel the same way, and go back and forth in my mind about whether blogging is worth the time I invest. It is so hard to find the time, but when I do make a great recipe I am excited to share it and those are the times I love blogging. I need to keep reminding myself that when I have time and some inspiration, I should post, but not stress about the frequency. Sometimes I wish I could actually make some money from all of the work I put it, but then it would start to feel like work and not so fun, and I don’t want to get to a point where blogging feels like a chore. I’ll keep blogging for now because I enjoy it, but my real life and family will always come first. It’s so nice to hear someone else recognize that family is more important than blog stats!

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    Comment by Kristine — July 12, 2013 @ 5:05 PM

  38. You’re not alone. I feel this way frequently. Most times, I feel inadequate as a food blogger. No brand company has ever offered to fly me out to their ranch to learn and blog about their baked beans. No chocolate company has ever offered me a check to develop a recipe. Heck, I’ve never even been to a blogging conference.

    I haven’t had a new like in weeks on my FB page, and you know what? I really don’t care. It all gets to be overwhelming. My kids are grown, but I work a full time job and it leaves little time to tend to my blog, FB page, Twitter, Instagram etc. I’m lucky if I can get a recipe post up once a month. Where does it end?

    I have recently been offered $150 by a marketing company to let them advertise on a featured blog post. I was seriously consider doing it, that is, until I read your blog. It snapped me back to reality. This is MY blog. I won’t sell out and let someone else take it over. For what? A measly buck fifty in my pay pal account? No. Thank. You! I will stick to doing it my way. Slow or fast. Post by post. Bad lighting photo by bad lighting photo. Or Foodgawker picture worthy. It doesn’t matter. What matters is the personal satisfaction I get out of doing it.

    I look at it this way, I began doing this because I love doing this. It is a hobby. Not a job. Not a paycheck. I do it at my own pace, and I can’t take it personal if I lose readers. I don’t think I have ever stopped reading another food blog, or any blog for that matter, because they weren’t posting up to my reading standards. Crikey, if I don’t have time to blog, how can I possibly have time to read all my favorite blogs? So it basically comes down to whose blog I stumble upon (no pun intended) that day.

    Great post!
    Best regards,
    Sherri @ The Kitchen Prescription

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    amy Reply:

    I’ve never been to a conference, either! That’s probably a good thing, though- if I ever did go, I’d be the weird social anxiety girl in the corner the whole time! Ha!
    Please don’t let my words shame you out of not accepting money for your blogging! I get paid to advertise on my blog and I’m not sorry for that! What matters is that you do what makes YOU comfortable and happy! As long as you stay true to yourself, you do whatever you want!!

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    Comment by Sherri @ The Kitchen Prescription — July 12, 2013 @ 5:41 PM

  39. I could have written this word for word! I totally understand :)

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    Comment by Jenn — July 12, 2013 @ 6:29 PM

  40. Ick! I feel the same way. I do post about products on my blog but that’s because I like getting the free samples and trying new products. I don’t get paid and honestly don’t expect anyone to read those posts because, well, they’re a bit cringe worthy. I look at my blog and just get depressed because I don’t have time for it, I work full time and just don’t have the space for lots of props and a photo studio. I also feel like I have to censor myself sometimes and pretend to be someone I’m not.

    I love your blog and if you don’t post for a long time I’ll be sad but when you decide too I’ll still have ya in my blogreader;)

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    Comment by Heather {Dietetic Sinners} — July 12, 2013 @ 8:16 PM

  41. Amy, you nailed it with this post. Thank you! You said everything that’s been rolling around in my head for a while and you said it much better than I ever could. As much as I adore your blog, I understand completely the need to back off. My little girl was born in January and blogging is way, way down on my priority list as well. Plus, I’m so bad with the networking and commenting and the tweeting, pinning, facebooking, etc. I just want make food and write about it. That’s really not enough anymore. Blogging is supposed to be fun. The minute it’s not, it’s time to take a break. There is plenty of other fun to be had – in sweet baby giggles and precious date nights with the husband. Keep on rocking it, girl. You are awesome!!

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    amy Reply:

    Erin!! Congratulations on the baby!!! I hate that I’m so out of the loop now and I didn’t know about this! Enjoy every minute- it just gets better and better! (except teething…that pretty much sucks)

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    Comment by Erin {Milk & Honey} — July 12, 2013 @ 9:22 PM

  42. You’re very wise! Much more important to be a good mommy (and have coffee with your sister & mother!) than a “super star” blogger!!

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    Comment by mother — July 12, 2013 @ 11:24 PM

  43. Frankly, I’ve loved the evolution of your blog since having Cassidy. You are adorable and so filled with love, it’s a really great story. And if you aren’t getting a ton of hits or “repins”, then so be it. The loyal ones, the ones who still love to see your recipes when you post them or who still love when you tell a good tale, they’ll still be here. We’ll still be here when you have time. Getting burned out, be it on blogging or work or anything, is a bad feeling. I’d rather see you happy and posting something delicious once a month than burned out and tired and completely bitter about the time it is taking away from your family.

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    Comment by Kim (Feed Me, Seymour) — July 13, 2013 @ 5:44 AM

  44. I’m sorry you’ve been holding this in for so long. It’s your space here and you should use it how and when you see fit.
    I blog for me. Clearly I don’t work too hard on staging and photography nor do I have many followers, but I do it when I feel like sharing recipes with family and friends. Someone asked why I blog since I don’t make money and I was kind of shocked. I keep up with some of the former WC community and enjoy that connection with people that enjoy cooking good food for enjoyment and fun. I too am over so many sponsored posts that don’t even relate to food. I selfishly hope you might still share a recipe now and then or return in the future. I’ve always enjoyed your blog!

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    Comment by Laura — July 14, 2013 @ 7:41 AM

  45. Not sure if my few words will make a difference as I am so far behind in the blogosphere. I started a blog last year and have barely done anything with it. I posted many recipes, but have only told a handful people about it because I feel that it isn’t anywhere close to what other bloggers have done with their blogs. I am caught in a viscous circle, I don’t want to invest in the expensive professional camera or this and that when I don’t know how it will all turn out! I am holding myself to such standards that I have handicapped myself- I started my cooking blog for my family. As a way to safekeep my Mother’s (may God rest her soul) recipes and the ones that I have discovered and that my family loves. It is for my niece and nephew that I am really doing this. While it would be nice to be successful especially because my mother always talked about writing a cooking book, it is really for my family, and that’s how I think (in my very very humble opinion) you should look at your work. You are doing it for your daughter. So document it for her, write about the recipes that your family really likes and the rest will follow. You shouldn’t force it, because I can’t even tell you what I wouldn’t do for just few more minutes with my mom! So enjoy your life, write about what you love and if money is an issue then why not write about a stroller every once in awhile:):(

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    amy Reply:

    Your nieces and nephews are very lucky to have your blog! What a great way to keep your mother’s spirit alive!

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    Comment by LH — July 15, 2013 @ 8:34 AM

  46. What a great post! You said it all in behalf of the majority of us who feel the way you do. What has happened to the world of blogging? I feel just as overwhelmed as you do. Hang in there. Just do it for the love of sharing. Do only what you can and only because it brings you the happiness it once did. What an adorable baby you have! Yes, I don’t blame you for stopping everything and showering her with your attention. Keep doing what you love :-)

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    Comment by Betty Ann @Mango_Queen — July 15, 2013 @ 12:19 PM

  47. OH, Amy. It is very hard, isn’t it!? I’m glad you let your feelings out and that everyone here is supportive. When I started in 2007, I had one particular friend who always bugged me about making my blog a business and making money from it. I thought she was crazy and told her I would never make it a business for two reasons: 1) How the heck can you make money from a blog!? and 2) If I made it my job, then I would not enjoy it!

    Well, here I am 6 1/2 years later and I now consider my blog my full time job (along with being a mommy, of course!) ha! I am very careful not to accept paid sponsorships unless I love the product and would tout it anyway, but it’s easy for me to decline those more than other bloggers because I rely on my ad networks for most of my income. Nowadays, that can be a scary thought, but I really don’t want to chase down brands and try to get paid by them. I want to continue to enjoy what I do, and still have ample time with my kids.

    I’m still working on finding the perfect balance of finding time to make recipes, photograph them and write about them, and it’s been very hard. I have good days, bad days, horrible days, great days! But, at the end of every day, I thank God that I have a beautiful family and a job that provides me income to help support us, yet, I can stay at home with my loves. :) Because if I didn’t have this “blogging job” then I would have to have another job which means time away from the kids.

    Everyone is in such different circumstances with their blogs and time of life. I hope you get to a point where you either blog and do it on your schedule, or just stop it altogether and feel great about either decision! :) (Selfishly, I hope you continue blogging.) ;)

    xoxo!!

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    amy Reply:

    Thank you for sharing your story, Nikki! You were one of the blogging moms I talked about who manages to do it all, yet never sacrifices your time with your babies! Always an inspiration to me!!

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    Comment by Nikki @Seeded at the Table — July 15, 2013 @ 3:22 PM

  48. Wow! I don’t think the timing of this post could have been any better for me!

    Right now I’m pregnant with my first baby and, mostly due to circumstances out of my control, I haven’t been blogging very often. The worst part is that I found myself feeling guilty. Guilty for not cooking, guilty for eating out (obviously for health reasons but also a small part of me kept thinking, “I’m a FOOD blogger and I’ve eaten out for the last X meals?!), guilty for not posting, guilty because I was watching my stats (and watching them go down)… I have found myself comparing my blog to other blogs out there and the guilt just grows. Just this weekend I was thinking how ridiculous my feelings have been. Life threw us a curve ball and we dealt with it the best we could, and blogging *couldn’t* be the priority.

    Now I’m able (and ready) to get back to blogging but I’m going to try not to put so much pressure on myself. I LOVE cooking/baking. I LOVE photographing food. And I LOVE sharing food with others. I really hope to just let that be my focus from here on out.

    Seriously, thank you for being real and sharing your thoughts. It makes me feel less “alone”!

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    Comment by Jessica — July 15, 2013 @ 11:11 PM

  49. I recently saw a blogger who posted her contact information to invite companies to have her speak as a local celebrity. Since when are bloggers celebrities? I agree it has gotten out of hand.

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    Comment by Sammi — July 16, 2013 @ 10:21 AM

  50. I’ve definitely had those similar feelings about how you “have” to compete and do all these things to be a blogger. I decided to just come to grips with the fact that my definition of blogging isn’t what “their” definition of blogging is – whoever “they” are…

    It definitely took some soul searching to come to grips with that, but now that I have, I’m back to loving blogging. I do it under my rules and I don’t let all the other crap get in the way of my enjoyment of it.

    If you feel like it’s not fun for you anymore, then maybe it is time for a break. I’ll definitely be sad to see you go, but I think you have to make peace with your own definition of what it means to be a blogger and just rock that definition and who cares what anyone else thinks. If you’re sick of blogging and would rather spend time with your baby girl, then it sounds like you know what you want to do.

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    Comment by Jen — July 16, 2013 @ 3:05 PM

  51. Amen. Along with all the stuff you included I am overwhelemed with technology these days…sick and tired of it…I will be turning 30 this year, ah strange typing that, anyway, I have 2 little kiddos and I do not do not do not want them to ever think or feel I use computer/cell, etc. more than I spend time with them…and some days I will be honest and say I probably do, although at times it is an ‘out’ for myself…but still. shutting down:)

    And about food blogging, I have cut back on mine quite a bit. It takes time, energy, quietness to think straight, which is hard to get with a 3 yr old who doesn’t nap and a 9 month old. Although I do enjoy reading your blog, you need to do what you feel best for you and your family.

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    Comment by stacie — July 16, 2013 @ 3:30 PM

  52. I’ve had waves of feeling similar to this…and honestly I’m now over it. It’s like I realized that I was creating my own pressure and expectations about blogging that really didn’t exist for me. I blog on my time, my schedule, my rules. I’ve never bought a food prop and styling food makes me bonkers. I don’t mind working for brands that I really use (and I don’t mind saying no either) because sh*t, after 5 years of blogging I need to make a little money to justify all the time ;)
    I felt the worst about blogging when my kids were looking at me like your sweet one is looking at you. My advice, shut the laptop, do your thing for a bit and see what happens. I reevaluated and reprioritized and figured out ways to make blogging work for ME. I enjoy blogging, not necessarily all the extra stuff. I gave up personal FB (b/c it annoyed me and is a huge time suck), I don’t freak out too much over my photos (read: compare to others, I’m just not a natural photographer), I hardly ever submit them to those sites anymore, I also stopped comparing myself to other bloggers. I finally got into a blogging groove that works for me (because I enjoy it and hey – because I want to work from home part-time!). I think if you step away a bit, you may miss it or you may not, and you’ll figure it all out.
    What’s funny is after my little blogging epiphany earlier this year (I seriously considered shutting it down), I am blogging more regularly than I have in the last couple of years, and with more joy. I hope it all works out for you!!! You are definitely not alone. :)

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    Comment by Aggie — July 16, 2013 @ 3:56 PM

  53. I appreciate your honesty and am 100% right there with you. I started blogging in 2008, and I started because I needed to learn how to cook and wanted to document my recipes. I have a full-time job outside of the home and honestly, I constantly struggle with not feeling “good enough” for the blog world that has taken off around me. In 2008, people blogged to share what they learned, to share their heart, to share their excitement about meals and good food. Now, that is not the case.

    As you’ve said, the stress around having the perfect blog, great SEO, and the like is too much! I’ve made the personal decision not to style my photos, not to upgrade my blog and to only cook what we are going to eat (not what will look good on Pinterest). And, it’s hard!!

    I don’t have kids yet, but I know what you mean about finding it hard to make time to blog when your family is around. I used to blog in the evening, but now I want to spend that time with my husband.

    I am thankful you took the time to share this, and I do hope that you’ll continue blogging — but only if you find enjoyment in it, not stress! There’s enough of that in life ;)

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    Comment by SnoWhite @ Finding Joy in My Kitchen — July 18, 2013 @ 12:25 PM

  54. Amy dear, I hear you 100%. I started blogging back in 2010, and while I haven’t yet reached my burn-out point, I totally get what you mean with the whole ‘Pinterest/Twitter/Food Photo Site Submissions (I submit to 11 each day…11?!). It’s become so much more time consuming than it was in the beginning.

    As for the ads, I walked away from that a couple months ago. I was driving myself crazy with checking Google Adsense every 2 hours, wondering why my revenue was dropping, or what I did to make it go up. Should I switch company’s? Why hasn’t BlogHer accepted my blog? I just got tired of it.

    And when I look in my drafts folder to see which recipe I want to publish each day, my first thought is always “Hmmm…which recipe will garner the most Pins?”…it’s sad. The one thing I pride myself on though is not selling out. I hosted 1 giveaway about a year ago and HATED it. Vowed never to do another one, nor will I ever accept money for reviewing or blogging about a product…that’s MY space, and I plan to keep it that way. I’ve stopped following many once favorite blogs because they became all about ‘products’.

    Anyway, sorry for the novel, but I just wanted to thank you for your post. You blog is one of the first I started following, so ‘Sing for your Supper’ holds a special place for me (it’s actually #1 in my ‘Blogs I Follow folder’). I wish you, Joel and sweet little Cassidy all the best. Take some time for you and your little family…screw the rest of it. We’ll still be here when you come back ;)

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    Comment by Mercedes — July 22, 2013 @ 2:45 PM

  55. Well, this is only my second visit to your blog. I say do what ever you want and that baby is more inportant than anything else. Instead of blogging everyday or so how about once a week or twice a month? You need to drop out and recharge and pinterest be damned!! Go with your heart.

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    Comment by Tina — July 24, 2013 @ 5:15 PM

  56. I know I am a late reply to this post, but I wanted to comment. I have been reading your blog for years now and my all time favorite post was your creamy taco mac. The pictures aren’t fancy the dish isn’t complicated (I have made it about a million times) the thing I love about this post is that you shared a very make-able recipe you had come across and a story about your life. That is what food and cooking is all about, food is so connected to our daily life and your ability to share your recipes and your stories is what makes you special. Honestly I am a little sick of the overly fancy food pictures with ridiculous props (and even more sick of food bloggers posting the insanely boring posts about how they get their pictures perfect!ack! Just shoot me!!!!) When you are ready to come back to blogging I would be happy with down home every day recipes, fun stories from your journey, boring, not perfectly white balanced pictures, as an Auntie with no babes of my own I would love kid friendly meal ideas from a mom, and most of all to you just being you.

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    Comment by Phaedra — July 27, 2013 @ 1:27 PM

  57. Wow ! I just found your blog while looking for a recipe. Man, you guys take this stuff serious !! Why people let the internet and all the social media stuff rule their life is a shame. I’m a cool 50 year old with 13 year old twin girls and life is too short, spend time with people you can see and touch, my friends are not strangers on blogs. Take care.

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    Comment by Lori — August 10, 2013 @ 8:37 PM

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